Ways to Keep Him

07-06-2010 Tuesday

Ok, before the long serious talk I plan to have with Alex, I figured I will first work on keeping our relationship on a good status. If this works out or not, at least there will be no more room for bitterness or regret, I did what I can do to make it last. At least he can remember me as the girl who cared and loved him for real. *Sappy alert! Ahhh!!

How does it work? Well, let's see, I listed down some of the things a girl can do that I think would make the relationship work. Note: It is proven for me, I don't know about you but it wouldn't hurt to try, would it?

1.) Always say the magic words. Say 'I love you', 'I miss you', 'take care', at least two or three times a day. Sure action speaks louder than words, but oftentimes, they still need to hear the words being spoken out loud.

2.) Appreciate him on a job well done. Whether it is as simple as being able to clean a room up, or fix an equipment in the house, always commend him for doing a neat job. It'll boost their self-esteem and make them want to do even better things.

3.) Compliment him. It'll be a good ego booster. This t-shirt makes him look sexier? Tell him. His new haircut brings out the softness of his face? Let him know. I've read somewhere that 'a compliment falls lightly, but it carries weight', believe in that.

4.) Never rub his mistakes to his face. I should've been more careful before when I was blaming him for everything. Boys are aware of their wrongdoings, and believe it or not, they eventually come to the realization that they need to correct their own mistakes. Let them figure it out on their own. Tell him what he did wrong in a manner that is not degrading to him as a person. I did that before and until now, I'm regretting it.

5.) Cook for him. This is an old, overused cliche but they always say that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Know why? Because they love to eat! Don't worry, you don't have to be the best cook around, as long as it's something he can digest and it's well-prepared, that's enough to make him appreciate you being around.

6.) Be more sensitive to his feelings. Even if you just think that you've hurt him, you probably had, so say you're sorry. Guys could be more sensitive than girls, it's just that they always hide their feelings. He could still be smiling but you'll never know.

There. That's all I could think of for now. I know there's more that I haven't mentioned but these are some of the most important for me. I can see how he's changing slowly. I no longer encounter the cold and heartless Alex. He's more understanding and patient with me. Even though I still throw a fit sometimes, he's still calm and he doesn't get mad.

I'm hoping that we can stay this way for a long long time...

Labels: alex, change, making it work, pink crimson, relationships

posted by Monica-Lynne @ 7:04 AM